We find ourselves towards the end of January, a great time, well it can only start getting better! Spring is on its way!
My last two blog posts to begin this year, have been on the concepts of Intention and Commitment. Bringing yourself into 2015 and creating a strong vision, then creating actions and sticking to them to fulfil your vision.
I posted a video on Facebook about daring to dream last week which encompasses these ideas well. Considering how to really remind ourselves why we are doing what we are doing and what it is we would like to achieve.
Todays blog is then with regard to Choice…..
With all our intention and all our commitment, we are often faced with choices. How do we choose???
Then, there are all those occasions where you think you have no choice…..I would go so far as to say You always have a choice. If a family member is sick and you need to be there for them, you are still choosing, if you have a deadline in work that needs to be done, you are still choosing. You are always making a choice! There may be things you would rather do, or would find more enjoyable but in light of the factors taken into consideration and after weighing things up, you will have made a choice.
There is always a CHOICE.
Acknowledging this not only creates a sense of empowerment but more importantly I feel it creates Freedom.
Why is this sense of freedom important? It is important because in the space of feeling freedom, you have space to choose what serves you best, you have space to be your best self, you have space to acknowledge the person you are and aspire to be. In this space, you can find that even when you think there is no choice or there are only two opposites, that there may be an array of options, there may be choices you didn't even know existed or had not considered.
I recently watched the movie Wild, in this movie there is a constant referral to the theme of choice and self empowerment. The lead character at a point is regretting many of the choices she has made and when she meets a man on her travels she asks if he would change things he has done or if he has regrets (video below at 1.29). But to him, he didn’t have a choice. “Never been a time in my life when there’s been a fork in my road,” he says. It seems to him that by feeling like he had no choice, he in reflecting can have no regrets. However in this way, one would sort of live never knowing what could have been, never feeling their own strength, never feeling like the steps taken can be chosen and paved from your choices.
Sometimes we don't want to make choices because we are afraid of making the wrong ones. Sometimes the fear of an unwanted result or outcome or the unknown prevents us from taking the lead in the choice making. In wanting to stay safe as such, we avoid choices or acknowledging choices.
But…by taking a back seat, by being the passenger in choices as opposed to the driver, we risk never seeing or feeling our true potential. We risk never truly knowing ourselves. Even our perceived ‘bad’ choices provide us with valuable lessons and maybe even more life learning than our perceived ‘good’ choices.
Sometimes we have become so used to others making choices or being told which choice to make that we have forgotten how to decide for ourselves.
All choices are your own, OWN them, own yourself, learn from everything.
As always, challenge yourself and grow…….
In moving forward into this year, create your vision, make your choices and Commit!