Have you ever noticed how certain reactions you have to situations never quite get the results you would like?
Often in life when we are faced with difficulties or problems we tend to react in two ways.
The first being to ignore the problem or the challenge which of course leads to suppressed feelings and un dealt with emotions and issues.
The second way is, when the problem crops up, to face it head on to complete exhaustion which more than likely leads you back to approach one!
We tend to use these two approaches over and over, neither of which being entirely successful.
The good news is, there is a 3rd option.
With any problems or issues that you are facing, take a couple of moments to sit with the exact issue at hand and bring it into a simple meditation practice. Allow yourself to observe how you feel and what thoughts occur around the issue. Without judgement or criticism or wanting things to be another way, just observation.
In this way you give yourself time to become aware of what exactly the issue is calling from you, what exactly the situation may be that you may be having trouble with. In this way giving yourself some uninterrupted time to allow new ways of responding to develop.
This in time means that you are not a) avoiding the issue or b) banging your head against a wall with it. You are now capable of using a new response to effectively move forward with awareness and clarity.
Your problems or challenges will not go away but your ability to deal with them can drastically change as you learn to take a step back.
Often in the company of others or when listening to others opinions and stories it can become extremely confusing at times to make choices and decide what the best thing to do in a situation is. For me taking some time out really helps with aligning what I feel is truly the best decision to move forward with.
The next time something crops up for you, where you feel challenged or unsure and you have a feeling of wanting to rush in and run away at the same time, try the 3rd option and see what happens.........